WEDS MANUAL - Love one another as I have loved you - 90 days

Sep 15, 2026

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WEDS Manual for the Marriage Encounter community outlines a 90-day journey to strengthen marriage through structured daily dialogue. It explains the vision rooted in John 15:12, emphasizes constant communication, attention to the sexual relationship, couple prayer, journeying with others, and re-evaluation of covenant love. Clear instructions guide lovers in writing love letters, exchanging them gently, reading with head and heart, and practicing dialogue to reach common understanding of the strongest feelings.

LanguageEnglish

CategoryLetters

FormatPDF

Pages33

Reading Time12 min

AccessFree to download

WELCOME to the Marriage Encounter Community!

The Vision and purpose of daily dialogue

Five tools to keep covenant love a priority

HOW TO USE THIS MANUAL

Day 1 reflection and love letter writing

Verbal dialogue and next-day reflection

WEDS PROCESS

Write and exchange love letters

Dialogue on strongest feelings

GUIDELINES FOR DIALOGUE

Write, Exchange, and Dialogue guidance

WEDS MANUAL “Love one another as I have loved you.” John 15:12 WELCOME to the Marriage Encounter Community! Dearest Lovers, We extend our warmest welcome to the family of Marriage Encounter! It is our hope that you will find continuing support and enrichment for your marriage by your active participation in Community. We are glad you have decided to use this WEDS Manual, which will provide you with an easy way to navigate your journey through the next 90 days. Why 90 days? Many experts say that it takes 90 days to develop a new action/behavior into a habit. (In fact, we hope that dialogue will become more than a habit, but rather a value for the rest of your lives. ) Interestingly, many years ago, 90 was also the number of questions that couples answered in their "extended dialogue time," which eventually became 90 minutes of writing and 90 minutes of verbal dialogue on Sunday morning which still takes place in some experiences around the world. This WEDS Manual can help you see the true value of dialogue: to connect on the more intimate level of feelings in even the "normal" activities of life and to have a simple vehicle with which to mine the depths of your hearts, enabling you to have inner adventures of love as you discover each other in new and richer ways. You may even notice positive signs in your family and workplace as you implement the communication skills learned during your experience. THE VISION of Worldwide Marriage Encounter is "Love one another as I have loved you." When we respond to our Lord’s call and allow His Light to shine through our relationship, we become a visible sign of God’s Love. Our love for each other reflects Christ’s great unconditional love for us. Our light is needed in today’s world more than ever before. As we respond to our call to love each other and to share our love, our relationship becomes more trusting and intimate. Our families are strengthened by our compassion and acceptance. Our Church is renewed! All from the simple discipline of daily dialogue! You will achieve God’s desire for your marriage and your relationship when you continually use the five tools learned during your Marriage Encounter experience to keep your covenant love a priority: 1 – Constant attention to our communication 2 – Attention to our sexual relationship 3 – Couple prayer 4 – Journeying with others 5 – Re-evaluation Striving to keep our covenant love alive is a wonderful journey. All of us in the Marriage Encounter Community are honored to travel with you. Changing the world is a difficult task, but we believe we can make a difference beginning with one couple at a time. Define the “world” you can influence with your great love and commitment – your spouse, your family, your neighborhood or your church – and then open wide your doors and go out into the world! Together, we can make an incredible difference! HOW TO USE THIS MANUAL © Begin by reading the short reflection for DAY 1 included in this WEDS Manual. You can do this together or separately, but do it before you write your love letter. © Dialogue – First, write your love letter about your feelings. Then dialogue verbally with your spouse about the strongest feeling. © When finished with the verbal part of your dialogue (or 10 minutes expires), together read the reflection for the next day right away so you can both be thinking about it before you write the following day. WEDS PROCESS © Write your love letters (10 minutes minimum) . These can be written together or separately. © Exchange your love letters and read your spouse's letter. Try to reserve this for primetime …you deserve it! © Dialogue on your feelings (10 minutes maximum) . Remember that the purpose of dialogue is to come to a common understanding of the strongest feeling, not to have a discussion of the topic or to solve the problem. © Select your question for the next day. (While using this manual, selecting the question means reading t

FAQs

Why does the WEDS journey last 90 days?

The manual explains that many experts say developing a new action or behavior into a habit takes about 90 days. It also connects this number to a tradition of couples answering many questions during extended dialogue time.

What are the five tools Marriage Encounter teaches during WEDS?

The five tools are constant attention to communication, attention to the sexual relationship, couple prayer, journeying with others, and re-evaluation.

How should couples write and exchange love letters?

Couples write love letters for a minimum of 10 minutes, then exchange notebooks gently and lovingly without unnecessary comments. They read each other’s letter twice silently, first to understand the words and then to absorb the feelings.

What is the goal of verbal dialogue in WEDS?

The purpose is to come to a common understanding of the strongest feeling expressed in the love letters, not to debate topics or solve problems.

Sep 15, 2026

Uploaded by Putri