Self-Compassionate Letter - A Compassionate Letter to Yourself

Sep 16, 2026

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A guided self-compassion writing exercise that helps identify a personally shameful, insecure, or “not good enough” aspect of oneself, name the emotions it triggers, and then address that disliked part through a letter. The instructions emphasize unconditional acceptance, shared human imperfection, consideration of contributing life events and family environment, and reframing self-judgment into constructive, kind coping and improvement suggestions. After writing, the letter can be reread during difficult moments to reinforce self-compassion.

LanguageEnglish

CategoryLetters

FormatPDF

Pages2

Reading Time1 min

AccessFree to download

Write the letter’s starting point

Identify the self-judged aspect and your feelings

Draft your compassionate response

Use unconditional acceptance and common humanity

Explore causes and suggest kind, constructive changes

Revisit the letter when you feel bad

Self-compassionate letter taken from-[https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/self_compassionate_letter\#data-tab-how](https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/self_compassionate_letter#data-tab-how)[ ](https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/self_compassionate_letter#data-tab-how)see explanatory post-[https://blogs.flinders.edu.au/student-health-and-well-being/2018/04/19/exercise-build-self-compassion/](https://blogs.flinders.edu.au/student-health-and-well-being/2018/04/19/exercise-build-self-compassion/) Start by identifying something about yourself that makes you feel ashamed, insecure or not good enough. It might be some aspect of your personality, behaviour, abilities, relationships, or another aspect of your life. Write it down. _____________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________ How does it make you feel?– sad, embarrassed, guilty, angry? Be as honest as possible. You can always destroy this letter after you are finished. _____________________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________ On the next page, you are going to write a letter to yourself, expressing compassion, understanding, and acceptance for the part of yourself you dislike. Given that this can feel unusual at first, especially for people who are quite self-critical, here are some tips for how to make the letter more self-compassionate. 1) Imagine that there is someone who loves and accepts you unconditionally for who you are. What would that person say to you about this part of yourself? 2) Remember that everyone has things about themselves they don’t like and no-one is without flaws. There are probably many people in world struggling with what you are struggling with. What would you say to them? How would you treat them kindly? 3) Consider the ways that events in your life, the family environment in which you grew up, or even your genes may have contributed to this negative aspect of yourself. 4) Rather than focus on judging yourself, are there constructive ways that you could try to improve or better cope with this negative aspect of yourself? In a kind way, suggest changes you could make to feel happier, healthier or more fulfilled. 5) When you’ve finished the letter, put it aside for a little while. Maybe come back to it later and read it again. You might find it helpful to read this letter when you are feeling bad about this aspect of yourself, as a reminder to be more self-compassionate. Dear , | | | --- | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | [www.flinders.edu.au/studenthealth](www.flinders.edu.au/studenthealth)

FAQs

What should I write in the first part of the self-compassionate letter?

Identify an aspect of yourself that makes you feel ashamed, insecure, or not good enough, and write it down. Then describe how it makes you feel, being as honest as possible.

How do I make the letter more self-compassionate?

Imagine someone who loves and accepts you unconditionally and write what they would say. Remind yourself that everyone has flaws, consider how life events, upbringing, or genes may have contributed, and suggest kind, constructive ways to improve or cope.

When should I read the letter again?

After finishing, put the letter aside for a little while, then come back and reread it. Use it as a reminder when you are feeling bad about that aspect of yourself.

Sep 16, 2026

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