Gratitude Letter - Moderate Practice - Write and deliver a gratitude letter

Sep 16, 2026

A guided gratitude letter practice designed to deepen health and happiness by turning fleeting thanks into a deliberate, thoughtful message. The exercise asks you to recall a specific person who helped you but to whom you never expressed deep gratitude, then write a concrete letter describing what they did, why you are grateful, and how it shaped your life. Whenever possible, the letter is delivered in person (or via phone/video) to strengthen connection.

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[https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/gratitude_letter](https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/gratitude_letter) GRATITUDE LETTER Diﬃculty: MODERATE | Frequency: 3X/WEEK | Duration: 10 MINS WHY YOU SHOULD TRY IT Feeling gratitude can improve your health and happiness; expressing gratitude also strengthens relationships. Yet sometimes expressions of thanks can be fleeting and superficial. This exercise encourages you to express gratitude ina thoughtful, deliberate way by writing—and, ideally, delivering—a letter of gratitude to a person you have never properly thanked. TIME REQUIRED Budget about 10 minutes for writing the letter and at least 30 minutes for the visit, if you choose to deliver your letter in person. HOW TO DO IT Call to mind someone who did something for you for which you are extremely grateful but to whom you never expressed your deep gratitude. This could be a relative, friend, teacher, or colleague. Try to pick someone who is still alive and could meet you face-to-face in the next week. It may be most helpful to select a person or act that you haven’t thought about for a while—something that isn’t always on your mind. Now, write a letter to one of these people, guided by the following steps. Write as though you are addressing this person directly (“Dear ”) . Don’t worry about grammar or spelling. Describe in specific terms what this person did, why you are grateful to this person, and how this person’s behavior affected your life. Try to be as concrete as possible. Describe what you are doing in your life now and how you often remember their efforts. Next, you should try if at all possible to deliver your letter in person, following these steps: Plan a visit with the recipient. Let that person know you’d like to see them and have something special to share, but don’t reveal the exact purpose of the meeting. When you meet, let the person know that you are grateful to them and would like to read a letter expressing your gratitude; ask that they refrain from interrupting until you’re done. Take your time reading the letter. While you read, pay attention to their reaction as well as your own. After you have read the letter, be receptive to their reaction and discuss your feelings together. Remember to give the letter to the person when you leave. If physical distance keeps you from making a visit, you may choose to arrange a phone or video chat. EVIDENCE IT THAT WORKS Seligman, M. E., Steen, T. A., Park, N., & Peterson, C. (2005) . Positive psychology progress: empirical validation of interventions. American Psychologist, 60(5), 410. When researchers tested five different exercises, writing and delivering a Gratitude Letter showed the greatest benefit to people’s happiness one month later; however, six months after, their happiness had dropped back down to where it was before. This is why some researchers suggest doing this exercise once every six weeks or so. Participants in this study were largely white, middle-aged adults with college degrees. Froh, J. J., Kashdan, T. B., Ozimkowski, K. M., & Miller, N. (2009) . Who benefits the most from a gratitude intervention in children and adolescents? Examining positive affect as a moderator. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 4(5), 408–22. Adolescents who often don’t experience positive emotions showed a significant boost in positive emotions two months after writing and delivering a Gratitude Letter. Nearly 70% of the adolescents in this study were Caucasian, with therest identifying as Asian American, African American, Hispanic, or “other.” Research suggests that while there are benefits simply to writing the letter, you reap significantly greater benefits from delivering and reading it in person. Who Has Tried The Practice? Additional research has engaged members of other groups: Asian American adults in Southern California felt more satisfied with life after writing weekly Gratitude Letters for six

FAQs

What is a Gratitude Letter practice and what does it aim to improve?

It involves writing and ideally delivering a letter of gratitude to someone you have never properly thanked. The practice strengthens health and happiness and improves relationship connection.

How should you choose the person and what should the letter include?

Choose someone still alive and able to meet soon, ideally someone you haven’t thought about for a while. Describe what they did, why you are grateful, how their behavior affected your life, and what you are doing now and how you remember their efforts.

Is delivering the letter in person necessary, and what if distance prevents it?

Delivering and reading it in person provides greater benefits than writing alone. If you cannot visit, you may arrange a phone or video chat to share the letter and discuss reactions together.

Sep 16, 2026

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