Let Him Chase You - A Simple Guide For Women Who Want Both Long-Lasting Love and Respect in Their Relationships with Men

Oct 28, 2026

A relationship guide by L. Lynn Gilliard exploring how heterosexual dating dynamics can be distorted when women try to “catch” men rather than understand the roles that shape attraction and commitment. Through an illustrative story of Eve and Thomas, the book examines mismatched intentions, “friend with benefits” behavior, ghosting, and the pattern of choosing partners who treat emotions as disposable. It emphasizes self-reflection, deliberate choices, and actionable mindset shifts that help women become the chooser and pursue long-lasting love with respect.

LanguageEnglish

CategoryLifestyle

FormatPDF

Pages30

Reading Time46 min

AccessFree to download

Eve’s Story

A Man’s Hierarchy of Desires/Needs in a Woman

A Woman’s Hierarchy of Desires/Needs in a Man

Why I’m Writing This Guide

Let Him Chase YO U A Simple Guide For Women Who Want Both Long-Lasting Love and Respect in Their Relationships with Men by L. Lynn Gilliard Let Him Chase You Published by: Venup Publishing [LetHimChaseYou.com](LetHimChaseYou.com) [Copyright 2013 L. Lynn Gilliard](Copyright 2013 L. Lynn Gilliard) All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or by any information storage and retrieval system, without written permission from the author or publisher, except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review. Disclaimer: This guide is written for informational and educational purposes only. No warranty or guarantee is offered to the reader as to the effects of using the contents of this book. Each situation is different and thus, results vary. The author and publisher do not assume and hereby disclaim any liability to any party. Neither the author, publisher or any associated entities assume any responsibility for errors, omissions, or contrary interpretations of the subject matter herein. The views expressed herein are those of the author alone and shouldn’t be taken as expert instruction or a command. Each reader is fully responsible for his or her own actions. Eve’s Story 15 days have gone by since their first date. 3 days have gone by since he last called or texted her. 7 days have gone by since he last set up a date with her. And it just so happens that 7 days have gone by since they first had sex. Finally, on the 8th day of sitting by quietly waiting for a date invitation, Eve decides to break down and call him. “I just don’t think I’m ready for anything serious right now. I’m not ready to date (insert other excuse),” Thomas says when she asks him what’s going on.“We can still hang out sometimes though.” Eve and Thomas have sex a couple more times--that’s what he really meant by “hanging out” after all. Then he completely “ghosts” her. No replies, no contact. 5 weeks later Eve finds out through Facebook that Thomas is “in a rela tionship” with another girl he just met. Why did Thomas make the other girl his girlfriend after a short period of time but only thought Eve was fit to be his “friend with benefits?” Keep reading this guide to find out exactly why, and how you can avoid being treated like Eve in the future. A Man’s Hierarchy of Desires/Needs in a Woman 􀀼 A Looker A Lover A Supporter Who Believes in Him A Friend and Confidant A Woman’s Hierarchy of Desires/Needs in a Man 􀀼 A Protector A Provider A Looker/Lover A Friend and Confidant Why I’m Writing This Guide A lot of relationship experts teach women how to “catch” a man, as if he is the prize and you as the woman should be the pursuer. Therein lies a lot of the dysfunction and confusion that many women and men have when it comes to dating and relationships today. The roles are all Let Him CHase You screwed up. Men are by nature supposed to be the chasers in heterosexual relationships. To be clear, I am not a relationship expert; I am just a very attentive observer who studies human relationships and interactions daily. I have unfortunately seen plenty of relationships go sour. I’ve seen a lot of my woman friends get played, “pumped and dumped”(used for sex and then dumped or ignored) and used up by men in other ways. And of course, I have experienced the same things. It’s pretty obvious why these things happen but sometimes we women don’t want to own up to our own roles in the situations—we just place blame on the guy for being a jerk. And yeah, he is a jerk for taking advantage of you with no intention of going much further with you. But if the same thing happens again, and again, and again, with different guys, some self-reflection is in order. This was my story for a long time. I threw pity parties whenever a man suddenly and unexpectedly exited from my life. I w

FAQs

What happens in Eve’s story that motivates the guide?

Eve waits for Thomas to follow through, tries to call him when he stops contacting, has sex again, and then he ghosts her. Weeks later she learns he quickly entered a new relationship, raising questions about his intentions toward her.

How does the book challenge the idea of “catching” a man?

It argues that relationship experts often frame men as the prize and women as the pursuer, which creates dysfunction and confusion in dating.

Why does the author criticize “friends with benefits”?

The author says the trend to treat emotions as irrelevant and pretend feelings don’t matter leads to harm and mismatched expectations. She promises to explain why “friends with benefits” doesn’t work as intended.

Oct 28, 2026

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