HOME BASE MENTORING QUESTIONNAIRE - Pre-marriage and Early Marriage Version

Q: What is the purpose of the HOME BASE MENTORING QUESTIONNAIRE?

It supports pre-marriage, re-marriage, and early marriage mentoring by guiding reflections on family relationships, love styles, and communication. It is provided as an older format for organizations that still use it.

Q: How does the questionnaire help participants think about love?

It asks about the participant’s primary love dialect and how they feel about public expressions of affection. It also prompts reflection on how love is received and how family experience influences affection toward a partner.

Q: What kinds of communication topics are included?

It addresses how partners show appreciation, what is best and most aggravating in current communication, and how changes should be requested. It also includes listening indicators such as uninterrupted conversation, eye contact, and focusing attention.

Sep 22, 2026

Uploaded by Connor

HOME BASE MENTORING QUESTIONNAIRE is an older pre-marriage, re-marriage, and early marriage version of the TREK Questionnaire, offered for churches and community groups that continue using it. The questionnaire includes guided sections on relationships with a spouse’s family, giving and receiving love styles, and personal communication. It asks participants to reflect on family dynamics, in-law expectations, affection and love languages, and how partners request changes and show they listen and appreciate each other.

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Reading Time55 min

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Relationships with the Family

Giving and Receiving Love

Personal Communication

HOME BASE MENTORING QUESTIONNAIRE This questionnaire is an older version of the TREK Questionnaire used for pre-marriage, re-marriage and early marriage. This older format is provided for churches and community groups that continue to use this format. This version is free to use in pre-marital and marital mentoring. The questionnaire is copyrighted material and is not to be used for commercial gain. The updated and reformatted TREK Questionnaire is available for purchase on our web site or through personal correspondence. $" 􀀞 4=F AB@33B􀀚 E3AB D/<1=CD3@􀀚 01 D%E 1"EEE􀀜B6 3 2C19:=EA 􀀜 1/ j $􀀞" ' '\#" Relationships with the Family Your relationship with your partner ʼs parents and family may be one of the most signiﬁcant relationships in your married life. It is important at the outset of your marriage and in the ﬁrst years of your marriage to understand these relationships and what blessings and difﬁculties may be ahead for you and your spouse. 1. List a few character traits or attributes about your partner's parents that you really like. Why do you like these attributes? 2. What kind of involvement do you expect and / or want from your in-laws and their family? Do you like over-involvement (closeness) more than underinvolvement (distance) as a general rule (or visa versa)? 3. How do you feel about your spouse's relationship with his / her parents? 4. What kind of relationship do you think you have with your in-laws? What kind of relationship do you want? 5. Do you look at your in-laws as mostly a help or a hindrance in your upcoming or current marriage? 6. What would the marriage of the wife ʼs (or bride) father with the husband ʼs (orgroom) mother be like? 7. What would the marriage of the wife ʼs mother with the husband ʼs father be like? 8. If you wish, write a personal letter or card to your in-laws (or future in-laws) with some of the reﬂections from this section. What do you want to say to them? What kind of a response would you expect? 9. Do you expect that you will do \#8 above? $" 􀀞 4=F AB@33B􀀚 E3AB D/<1=CD3@􀀚 01 D%E 1"EEE􀀜B6 3 2C19:=EA 􀀜 1/ j $􀀞" ' '\#" Giving and Receiving Love Anybody who has been in an intimate relationship (whether romantic or between parent and child or just as a best friend) will know that people express and receive love in differing ways. One part of a dyad might be a real “touch-er”while the other is a problem-solver – and both are offering these attributes for the good of the relationship. Now wouldn ʼt it be good if you could ﬁgure out what your partner ʼs style of loving is? This is the point of this section of your Trek Inventory. Enjoy! 1. If there are ﬁve different dialects of the one language (love), what is your primary dialect? • Words of afﬁrmation, appreciation or encouragement • Acts of service • Quality time spent together • Physical touch • Giving and receiving gifts 2. How do you feel about public expressions of affection? Are there any important“rules” about our public displays of affection that I should know? 3. How do you like best to express love for your partner? Provide several speciﬁc examples. How does your partner express love for you? Provide a few examples. 4. In what ways do you receive love the best? In what ways does your partner receive love the best? 5. How did your parents give and receive love? How about your grandparents or others that were around when you were growing up? 6. When you were a child, how did you imagine that you would give and receive love when you grew up to be an adult? 7. Describe the impact on how you love your partner by the way in which your family expressed love. 8. What impact do you think your partner ʼs family experience will have on how he or she will show affection towards you? 9. Take some time to write your partner a short note or letter about what you have learned from this section. Be a bit innovative in your creation! $" 􀀞 4=F AB@33B􀀚 E3AB D/<1=CD3@􀀚 01 D%E 1"EE

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What is the purpose of the HOME BASE MENTORING QUESTIONNAIRE?

It supports pre-marriage, re-marriage, and early marriage mentoring by guiding reflections on family relationships, love styles, and communication. It is provided as an older format for organizations that still use it.

How does the questionnaire help participants think about love?

It asks about the participant’s primary love dialect and how they feel about public expressions of affection. It also prompts reflection on how love is received and how family experience influences affection toward a partner.

What kinds of communication topics are included?

It addresses how partners show appreciation, what is best and most aggravating in current communication, and how changes should be requested. It also includes listening indicators such as uninterrupted conversation, eye contact, and focusing attention.

Sep 22, 2026

Uploaded by Connor

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