Exploring the Roots of Your Marriage - Part 1 - Reacquainting Oneself with Past Experiences

Oct 13, 2026

Exploring the Roots of Your Marriage examines how early life experiences and the family of origin shape adult identity and relationship patterns. It guides readers through self-discovery, including genograms, understanding personal strengths and growth areas, and assessing how healthy a marriage feels. The book then focuses on renewal through healing processes, relationship skills, conflict resolution, and relapse prevention. It closes with spirituality, forgiveness, accepting change, and reading suggestions.

LanguageEnglish

CategoryHealthcare

FormatPDF

Pages106

Reading Time4 h 27 min

AccessFree to download

Foreword

Acknowledgments

Part 1 Reacquainting Oneself with Past Experiences

How did I become me?

How well do you know yourself?

Identify the areas in yourself you can work on (please check)

Experiences as a young person

Genogram: Symbols and Meaning

Guidelines in Working Your Genogram

The Influence of the Family of Origin

Part 2 REDISCOVERING OURSELVES IN THE Context of MARRIAGE

Take Your Marriage Pulse

Self-Discovery in Marriage

How Healthy Is Your Marriage?

Relationship Skills

Framework of Relationships

Elements of a Loving Relationship

The 3 R's of Marriage Issue Themes

Part 3 RENEWAL OF SELF BY MAKING CHANGES TO REINFORCE PARTNERSHIP IN MARRIAGE

How Do We Mend Our Marriage?

THE HEALING PROCESS

Keeping The Commitment Alive

Resolve Issues Before They Become Chronic Or A Crisis

Issues and Conflict Resolution

Diffuse Potentially Toxic Situations

Part 4 Marriage and Prevention of the Return to Old Behaviors

Prevent the Cycle

Oops, I Did It Again!

Self-monitoring for Warning Signals of Relapse

Dealing with a Relapse

Spirituality in Marriage

Loving, Forgiving, and Accepting

Suggested Readings

Appendices

# Exploring the Roots ofYour Marriage Understanding the Influence # Exploring the Rootsof Your Marriage Understanding the Influenceof the Family of Origin Leticia S.Isidro-Clancy Copyright ⑥2018 by Leticia S.Isidro-Clancy. All rights reserved.No part of this publication may be reproduced,distributed,or transmited in any form orby any means,including photocopying,recording,or other electronic or mechanical methods,without theprior written permisson ofthe aurho,except in the case of brief quotations embodied in critical reviews andcertain other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law. Printed in the United States of America Paperback:978-1-948172-90-5 ISBN: eBook:978-1-948172-89-9 Library of Congress Control Number:2018949023 STONEWALL PRESSPAVINGYOUR WAY To sUCCESS Stonewall Press363 Paladium CourtOwings Mills,MD 21117www.stonewallpress.com1-888-334-0980 This book is dedicated to the couples who are committedto each other and strive to grow in their marriage. CONTENTS Foreword……………………………………………………… ………………………………………………………ix Acknowledgments………………………………………………………………………………………xi Part 1 Reacquainting Oneself with Past Experiences…1 How did I become me?……………………………………………………………3 How well do you know yourself?……………………………4 Identify the areas in yourself you can work on (please check)…………………………………………………………………5 Positive traits that off-set your negative traits (please check)……………………………………………………………………5 Experiences as a young person……………………………7 Who am l?…………………………………………………………………9 Significance of Term…………………………………………………11 Genogram: Symbols and Meaning…………………13 Guidelines in Working Your Genogram…………16 The Influence of the Family of Origin………………17 Part 2 REDISCOVERING OURSELVES IN THE CONTEXT OF MARRIAGE………………………………………21 Take Your Marriage Pulse……………………………………………25 Self-Discovery in Marriage……………………………………………29 How Healthy Is Your Marriage?……………………………30 Relationship Skills……………………………………………………………31 Framework of Relationships …………………………………32 Elements of a Loving Relationship………………………3 The 3 R's of Marriage Issue Themes………………………37 REALITY ORIENTATION:………………………………………38 …………………………………………39 RESPONSIBILITY:………… RELATIONSHIPS:…………………………………………………………42 You and Marriage…………………… …………………………………………43 Sexuality In Marriage…………………………………………………43 PART 3 RENEWAL OF SELF BY MAKING CHANGES TO REINFORCE PARTNERSHIP IN MARRIAGE.49 How Do We Mend Our Marriage?………………………………51 THE HEALING PROCESS……………………………………52 Relationship Maintenance…… Faithful………………………………… Forgiving………………… Flexible ………………………………………………………………………………………56 Fun……………………………………………………………………………………56 Keeping The Commitment Alive………………………………………58 Resolve Issues Before They Become Chronic Or A Crisis………………………………………………………………………………………60 Issues and Conflict Resolution…………………………………61 Diffuse Potentially Toxic Situations………………………63 Part 4 Marriage and Prevention of the Return to Old Behaviors………………………………………………………………65 Prevent the Cycle…………………………………………………………………67 Oops, I Did It Again!…………………………………………………68 Self-monitoring for Warning Signals of Relapse…………………………………………………………………69 Dealing with a Relapse……………………………………………69 Spirituality in Marriage……………………………………………70 Loving, Forgiving,and Accepting………………………72 Suggested Readings……………… ……………………………………75 Appendices…………………………………… …………………………………77 The commitment to complete this manual will have personal reward—the discovery of oneself in the intimacy of the most important personin your life,your spouse.This can lead to the growth of your marriage.

FAQs

How does the family of origin influence marriage according to the book?

The book focuses on how past experiences and the family of origin shape identity and relationship patterns. It uses tools like genograms and reflective guidelines to uncover these influences.

What steps are recommended for self-discovery within marriage?

Readers are guided to take a “marriage pulse,” reassess personal knowledge of self, and evaluate areas for growth. The process also includes strengthening relationship skills and understanding loving relationship elements.

How does the book address healing and preventing a return to old behaviors?

It outlines a healing process that supports relationship maintenance through traits such as faithful, forgiving, and flexible. It also covers conflict resolution, diffusing toxic situations, and self-monitoring to handle relapse and prevent cyclical patterns.

Oct 13, 2026

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