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This may take one or more sessions per individual.  \n2) The listening partner is then taught how to write an Amends letter that involves directly taking responsibility for having done harm, describing how they hope to insure that they won't repeat the harm, and a willingness to negotiate some kind of amends action.  \n3) The Amends letter is read in the session and the person to whom it's being read is coached about to write a Forgiveness letter which involves accepting the amends and expressing acceptance of the partner's effort to attempt change, and understanding that the partner is a flawed and limited human being not having meant todo most the harm they've done.  \n4) The partner who made the amends not goes through the same process of having their own turn to speak their hurts, hear the amends, and try to forgive.","cbCailRiNu2uUIKu","https://ap.wps.com/l/cbCailRiNu2uUIKu","pdf",11583,"English","# Core Steps of the Protocol\n## Individual discussion of hurts\n## Writing the Amends letter\n## Session reading and coaching\n## Writing the Forgiveness letter\n## Role reversal and forgiving","[{\"question\":\"How does the protocol begin for each partner?\",\"answer\":\"Each member of the couple gets as much time as needed to discuss how they feel hurt, abandoned, betrayed, and disappointed, with the therapist providing compassionate guidance.\"},{\"question\":\"What must an Amends letter include?\",\"answer\":\"The Amends letter involves directly taking responsibility for harm, describing hopes to ensure it won’t be repeated, and expressing willingness to negotiate some kind of amends action.\"},{\"question\":\"How does the protocol work after the Amends letter is read?\",\"answer\":\"The person receiving the Amends letter is coached to write a Forgiveness letter that accepts the amends, recognizes the effort to change, and understands the other as a flawed human who may not have intended the harm.\"}]","The Amends and Forgiveness Protocol - Part 5 - Steps for Couples | PDF"]