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Maybe they will experience an accident or will have to leave all of their friends behind to move to another city. Perhaps someone close to them will die, and you will want to make a connection to acknowledge their loss.  \nHow do you begin? How do you know what to say? Writer Garrison Keillor gives us some advice:  \nSit for a few minutes with the blank sheet in front of you, and meditate on the person you will write to, let your friend come to mind until you can almost see her or him in the room with you. Remember the last time you saw each other and how your friend looked and what you said and what perhaps was unsaid between you, and when your friend becomes real to you, start to write.  \nAs Keillor advises, focus on your friend, acquaintance, or family member, not on your uneasiness about writing. Writing a letter of condolence is all about the person who is grieving. Because of this, avoid recounting any stories about you when you experienceda loss. People in pain do not have the brainpower or the emotional energy to take in such stories, and they usually do not care how you reacted or what you felt. They are doubledover on themselves and find it hard to focus on you.  \nSecond—yes, this is a list—keep it short (“I am sorry for your loss, and I’m keeping you in my prayers”) or write a longer note that includes a memory you have of the person  \nor special pet she just lost. These shared memories are healing, and they affirm the good qualities of the dearly departed.  \nThird, avoid teaching life lessons or writing something hurtful. This includes, but isnot limited to, the following:  \n􀁸 “At least you had him for   years.” The number of years will vary, but the callousness of this statement does not. It negates the grieving person’s pain and implies he should be happy or thankful. Incidentally, anytime you hear yourself say,“At least   ,”“Well   ,” or “But   ,” clap your hand over your mouth because your next words will most likely do nothing but hurt.  \n􀁸 “It’s all for the best.” Even if the person was sick and in great pain, a death rarely feels like it is “for the best.”Family and friends will miss the person or cherished pet who died. They will mourn him. Say something about the loss; avoid platitudes.  \n􀁸 “I know what you’re going through.” While each loss shares similar emotions, you do not live in your friend’s head. Two possible ways of letting your friend know you are there for him or her might be something like these: “I had a similar experience” or “I lost my brother, too. Do you want to talk about it?” This tells the person that you understand the pain, but it doesn’t burden the recipient with your unhappy story.  \nAnd last, be specific about what kind of help you can offer. A vague “Call me if you need anything” means little to the overwhelmed mourner and might soon be forgotten. So try something specific like offering to drop off a dessert on Thursday or feed and walk the dog on the day of the funeral.  \nAnd really last, even if you are more likely to text someone than to write a note, everything you are learning here still applies.  \nOn the next pages, you’ll find questions, examples, and exercises.  \nDay 2: Make a List, Read Examples, and Answer Questions  \nPractice 1  \nPractice 2: Do they make the grade?  \nIn the space below or on a separate piece of paper, write the items in the Day 1 lists that are new to you. Also, if you have suffered a loss in your life, write things people told you that were helpful. Then proceed to Practice 2.  \nBelow and on the next page are three sympathy letters written by students for an assignment. Read the “fake” letters. Look for what the students did well and where they could improve. Then answer the questions that follow them on the next page.  \n1. 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