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Communication in practice\nLanguage and relationships\nCommunication styles\nCommunication contexts\nCommunication accommodation\nUncertainty management\nSources of miscommunication\nII. Language and society\nCulturally embedded language\nCultural schemas and scripts \nGender and communication\nCommunication in personal relationships \nRomancing across cultures\nTechnically speaking: Conversing and relating online\n\nEden Jacobowitz is a student at the University of Pennsylvania. His studies were interrupted by a noisy crowd of students, many black and female. He yelled out his window, \"Shut up, you water buffalo.\" He is now charged with racial harassment under the university's Code of Conduct. The school offered to dismiss the charge if he would apologize, attend a racial sensitivity seminar, agree to dormitory probation, and accept a temporary mark on his record which would brand him as guilty. He was told the term \"water buffalo\" could be interpreted as racist because a water buffalo is a dark primitive animal that lives in Africa. That is questionable semantics, dubious zoology, and incorrect geography. Water buffalo live in Asia, not in Africa. This from the University of Pennsylvania. Mr. Jacobowitz is fighting back. The rest of us, however, are still in trouble. The language police are at work on the campuses of our better schools. The word cops are marching under the banner of political correctness. The culture of victimization is hunting for quarry. American English is in danger of losing its muscle and energy. That's what these bozos are doing to us. (Kors & Silverglate, 1999).\n\bThis is a commentary by US news anchor John Chancellor on NBC news. A number of North American universities have explicit \"speech codes\" which seek to regulate what is perceived as harmful or hateful speech. These policies have been controversial, both in terms of the restrictions they place on individual freedom of speech and in how infractions are dealt with. Eden Jacobowitz defended his use of the term \"water buffalo\" as not intended to be a racial slur, but coming from Hebrew slang, behema (behemoth), used by Jews to refer to a loud, rowdy person. The charges against Jacobowitz were eventually dropped. The incident highlights the volatility of verbal exchanges and the opportunities for miscommunication and conflict, particularly between individuals from different ethnic or racial groups. In this unit we will be looking at language in the context of interpersonal and intergroup use. That will include gender-related communication patterns, as well as cultural and linguistic issues as they relate to friendships and romantic relationships. Conversational exchanges will be discussed from the larger linguistic context of speech communities and communication styles.\nLanguage and relationships\nHuman beings are social animals. We live in community with others and tend to see ourselves through the relationships we have. These relationships vary significantly in terms of importance, permanence, and roles. We have long-lasting relationships with family members and brief encounters with strangers; in between are friends, schoolmates, work colleagues, romantic partners, Facebook \"friends\", Twitter followers, and a host of other possible relationships. Cultures differ in how such relationships are established and how significant a role they play in an individual's life. Courtship practices and mate selection, for example, can be quite different. In the US, men and women \"go on dates\" and it's likely that many Americans assume this is a universal human concept. But in reality this practice – and the whole idea of \"dating\" as practiced in the US – may be foreign, even to close cultural neigh\bbors, such as Western Europeans. Michael Agar reports on his experience in this regard (see sidebar). There is a set ritual around \"dating\" in the US, which is different from how Western E","cbCaipm1EmUyEjPU","https://ap.wps.com/l/cbCaipm1EmUyEjPU","docx",5545324,"English","# Chapter 4: Conversing and Relating\n## Communication in practice\n## Language and society","[{\"question\":\"What topics does Chapter 4 cover under communication in practice?\",\"answer\":\"It covers language and relationships, communication styles, communication contexts, communication accommodation, uncertainty management, and sources of miscommunication.\"},{\"question\":\"How does the “water buffalo” incident illustrate the risk of miscommunication?\",\"answer\":\"It shows how a verbal exchange can be interpreted through cultural and social meanings, creating tension and conflict even when the speaker claims no racial intent.\"},{\"question\":\"How does the chapter connect language and society to interpersonal relationships?\",\"answer\":\"It explains that culturally embedded language and shared cultural schemas shape how people negotiate relationships, including patterns related to gender, friendships, and romantic interactions.\"}]","Chapter 4 - Conversing and Relating | DOCX"]