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In these cases you can address the harm by writing a letter about how you have changed, express your gratitude, and apologize.  \nIf there is a protective order preventing you from contacting anyone you must respect that. Even though you are sorry and grateful for the person you hurt, you must never cause further pain by attempting to make amends. If your situation is serious and there is no protective order but you believe the person you hurt may be afraid of you, do not send the letter directly to them and instead ask another third party who knows you both to deliver the letter.  \nIf your case is serious and you are incarcerated show your letter to someone who works at the prison such as a Chaplin or a counselor and ask them to review it and sign it with a statement that they reviewed it, and ask them to contact your harmed loved one and request their permission for the letter to be sent to them. You never want to risk furthering harming someone.  \nThe following letter guidelines are based on work by Martin Seligman, PhD, founder of positive psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, Ben Furman, MD, psychiatrist from Finland; and Lorenn Walker, JD, MPH Hawai‘i public health educator & conflict management lawyer. Furman and Walker also developed [www.apologyletter.org](www.apologyletter.org).   \n[Fill in [bracketed] information with the specific facts about your situation and copy what is in bold]  \n[Write your name & address on letter] [Fill in date you are writing letter]  \nDear [person’s name you are grateful for and who you have also hurt. If more than one person is involved please write each person a separate letter]:  \nFirst, I want you to know that I have come to appreciate how precious life is and realize I want to do better for those I care about and for myself. I am not just saying this. I have worked hard and have [List all accomplishments you have made since you hurt who you are writing]  \nSecond, I want to thank you. I am grateful to you for [Describe what specifically the person did that has made a meaningful difference in your life that you are grateful for]  \nYou have made a difference because [Describe the meaningful difference the person you are thanking has made for others, e.g. “Your taking care of (child’s name) has helped (her or him survive in my absence), etc…”]  \nI deeply appreciate all your hard work and kindness in [doing whatever they did that you are thanking them for] Thank you from the bottom of my heart.  \nThird, I want to apologize to you for [Describe what you did to the person you’re writing that was hurtful, wrong, or unfair towards him/her]  \nMy actions were hurtful and I want you to know that I truly regret my behavior.  \nI have been thinking about what happened and I feel that I have learned a lesson. I have learned that: [Describe what you have learned]  \n[p.o. box](p.o. box) 3654 • Honolulu • HI • 96811 • ph: (808) 637-2385 • [www.hawaiifriends.org](www.hawaiifriends.org)  \nHawai‘i Friends of Justice & Civic Education  \nPlease know I will never do anything similar again, to you or to anyone else. I am determined to deal differently with similar situations in the future. In the future, in similar situations, instead I will: [Describe what you will do different in the future]  \nI wish there was a way for me to try and make up for what I did to you. If you have any ideas for how I might repair the harm I caused, I will try my best to do it. One possibility I thought of is: [Describe what you might do to make it up to the person you have hurt]  \nI am also willing to listen to you and meet with you in person to discuss this situation too if you wish. Please let me know if you want to meet, or if there is anything else I can do to make things right.  \nYou are f","cbCaihyRYsvH3Rvq","https://ap.wps.com/l/cbCaihyRYsvH3Rvq","pdf",108340,"English","# Introduction\n## When and how to send the letter safely\n# Letter structure\n## Opening and accomplishments\n## Gratitude and impact\n## Apology and lessons learned\n## Future commitments and repair ideas\n## Listening, meeting, and consent\n## Closing and signature options","[{\"question\":\"What should be included in a restorative gratitude and apology letter?\",\"answer\":\"The letter should express appreciation for life and commitment to do better, thank the person with specific details, apologize for what was hurtful, explain what was learned, and describe future actions and possible ways to repair harm.\"},{\"question\":\"How should the letter be handled if a protective order exists?\",\"answer\":\"A protective order preventing contact must be respected, and the letter should not be sent or used in a way that violates that restriction.\"},{\"question\":\"What steps are recommended for serious cases, especially if the writer is incarcerated?\",\"answer\":\"For serious cases, the letter should be reviewed by someone working in the prison such as a chaplain or counselor, who then signs with a review statement and contacts the harmed person to request permission to mail the letter.\"}]","change gratitude and apology letter guidelines - 1 | PDF"]