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When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.”(1989:474)  \nThe “locks” are those memories that are so personal, precious or precarious to us that we never think of sharing them with any one. Or, they have been long forgotten. The “keys” are the special engaging moments we share with our soulmate when we are so disarmedly happy that we easily recall such rare moments. We feel safe, even rewarded, fulfilled, to share them.  \nIf we are in a life-partner relationship, we have remained and settled with our partner for many reasons. Perhaps, we have a fear of being alone. Or, we really see something attractive or endearing in our partner. More likely, it is the enduring time we had spent together like water running over rocks and carving a flowing channel, or we are the surfaces of two flat rocks gently rubbing against one another until we fit just right.  \nWe know each other so well that we would prefer the familiar than risk new challenges that may not work out. Above all, as partners, we probably celebrate the happiness of our own children, or something bigger than the both of us, like doing Dharma work, and ministering to the greater good.3  \nI find Dr Carmen Harra’s “The 10 elements of a soulmate”4 helpful as a vehicle for my thoughts and feelings on this topic that is so close to my heart and work as a lay Dharma teacher and therapist. Many of our ideas overlap, but there is one key difference. As one informed and inspired by early Buddhist teachings, I see being a“soulmate” not so much as a person but rather as a role we often play at crucial moments in our lives.  \nSuch a role is vital to us as Dharma workers, when such a soulmateship expedites our efforts in helping or healing others. In brief, we can say that this is the basis for a truly Dharma-hearted relationship of openness, learning, creativity and joy. I call them,“the 10 qualities of being a soulmate.”  \n1 To my soulmate, past, present and future.  \n2 Richard D Bach is the author of the classic Jonathan Livingston Seagull (1972) .  \n3 On how to truly know another person, see Satta Jaṭila Sutta (S 3. 11), SD 14.11 & Ṭhāna Sutta (A 4,192), SD 14.12.  \n4 Based on “The 10 elements of a soulmate” of Dr Carmen Harra, clinical psychologist and relationship expert: [http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/elements-of-a](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/elements-of-a)soulmate b 3595992.html.  \n[http://dharmafarer.org](http://dharmafarer.org) 1  \nSoulmates by Piya Tan  \nThe 10 qualities of being soulmates:  \n1. It’s something inside. We don’t just “know” a soulmate: we often feel our soul--mate. We feel the joy or pain behind his words, smile and laughter. We feel the love behind his anger. We see the wisdom behind his silence. Care and love are well felt and enhanced by a gentle touch or warm hug.  \n2. Flashbacks. Our moments of soulmateship with another is often rooted in our past friendships that we have rekindled and celebrate anew. The past setting may be different, but the feeling is the same. Now are the chances for it to deepen. 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