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ISN’T DIALOGUING WITH YOUR PARTNER TEDIOUS?  \nTHE IMAGO WORKUP  \nTHE PARENT-CHILD DIALOGUE  \n10-DEFINING YOUR CURRICULUM  \nWHY SELF-LOVE DOESN’T WORK  \nTHE LIMITS OF FRIENDSHIP  \nTURNING THE THEORY INTO PRACTICE  \nDEFINING THE CURRICULUM  \nCOMPLEX CHANGE SET IN MOTION  \nREWARDS AND RESISTANCE  \nRESISTANCE  \nAGAPE  \n11-CREATING A SACRED SPACE  \nMY STORY  \nAN EXERCISE THAT FAILED  \nWHY ANGER BREEDS ANGER  \nTHE HOLDING EXERCISE  \nREMOVING ALL NEGATIVITY  \nWHAT IS NEGATIVITY?  \nCOLD TURKEY  \nSAM AND AMELIA  \nCORE SCENE REVISION  \nPOSITIVE FLOODING  \n12-PORTRAIT OF TWO RELATIONSHIPS  \nINTEGRATION  \nANNE AND GREG  \nKENNETH AND GRACE  \npart III-THE EXERCISES  \n13-TEN STEPS TOWARD A CONSCIOUS PARTNERSHIP  \nDOING THE EXERCISES  \nEXERCISE 1 : YOUR RELATIONSHIP VISION  \nEXERCISE 2 : CHILDHOOD WOUNDS  \nEXERCISE 3 : IMAGO WORKUP  \nEXERCISE 4 : CHILDHOOD FRUSTRATIONS  \nEXERCISE 5 : PARENT-CHILD DIALOGUE  \nEXERCISE 6 : PARTNER PROFILE  \nEXERCISE 7 : UNFINISHED BUSINESS  \nEXERCISE 8 : THE IMAGO DIALOGUE  \nEXERCISE 9 : THE COMMITMENT DECISION  \nEXERCISE 10: REROMANTICIZING  \nEXERCISE 11: THE SURPRISE LIST  \nEXERCISE 12: THE FUN LIST  \nEXERCISE 13: POSITIVE FLOODING  \nEXERCISE 14: THE BEHAVIOR CHANGE REQUEST DIALOGUE  \nEXERCISE 15: THE HOLDING EXERCISE  \nEXERCISE 16: OWNING AND ELIMINATING YOUR NEGATIVITY  \nEXERCISE 17: SELF-INTEGRATION  \nEXERCISE 18: VISUALIZATION OF LOVE  \nAcknowledgments  \nIn Appreciation of Jo Robinson  \nGETTING THE  \nALSO BY HARVILLE HENDRIX  \nSeeking Professional Help  \nNotes  \nBibliography  \nAbout Imago Relationship Therapy  \nImago Contacts  \nMeetings with Harville-Living a Life of Dialogue  \nIndex  \nAbout the Authors  \nCopyright Page  \nForeword to the Twentieth-Anniversary  \nEdition of Getting the Love You Want  \nWith Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D.  \nThe world is not comprehensible, but it is embraceable:  \nthrough the embracing of one of its beings.  \n—MARTIN BUBER  \nI BEGAN AN intense exploration of love relationships in 1975 in response to a question from a student in a marriage and family therapy class that I then taught. 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