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The discussion reframes “lovability” as broader than appearance, examines past experiences with weight-related attention, and highlights that many partners value personality and character over body shape. 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How are you doing? I really wish I could hear your answer because I really want to know! I'm good, I'm having a great day and enjoying being inside on this freezing cold New Hampshire day.  \nNow, like I said in the last episode, I wanted to talk more in depth about some of the topics that were discussed on my coaching call with Tammy that I posted a couple weeks ago.  \nLast week I talked about your identity as someone who binges and your future identity as someone who doesn't binge.  \nToday we're talking about your lovability and your body.  \nThis is not something that was relevant only to Tammy. I see this come up all the time in my coaching groups and I know I struggled with it too so it's time I address it here on the podcast.  \nI'll be talking about lovability with all kinds of love – family love, romantic love, friend love, all of it.  \nBut most of the attention of this topic will be on romantic love because I feel like that's the most common one that people deal with when they're associating their body with their lovability.  \nI struggled with my weight for many years of my life and I remember thinking that if I wanted to get a boyfriend I had to lose weight because, a guy I would want wouldn't want to date someone who is my size.  \nI'd also say that I wouldn't want to date someone who wanted me at that size I was at because I'd want him to have higher standards.  \nWhat's so interesting to me as I look back was that I was putting so much value on my body size and  \nshape.  \nI had a good amount of confidence in myself, my personality, I wasn't so much concerned about a man not liking me for me but I was concerned about a man and his thoughts and preferences regarding my body.  \nWhen I finally did lose weight and get to my ideal body size, it wasn't fully motivated by a desire to be more attractive but I'd be lying if I said that thought wasn't in my mind.  \nIt was like a secondary or tertiary reason. By the way, did you all know that word? Tertiary? I didn't and I'm sure most of you didn't either. I was looking up what comes after secondary, like a third reason and that's it. A little vocab lesson for you. You're welcome.  \nAnyway! We have it in our minds that if we want a good mate, a good romantic partner, then we have to look a certain way.  \nThat we will only find love if we have a certain body type or shape.  \nThis obviously goes back to what society has taught us and what we see in the media, no doubt.  \nBut you may have also seen it to be true in your own life which can make this so much harder to work through.  \nI have for sure.  \nWhen I lost my 40 lbs my sophomore year in college, I noticed a difference in the attention I received from men.  \nLater in my adult life, I remember a co-worker of mine, who I had known for like a year, suddenly becoming interested in me after I lost some weight. He told me there was something different about me.  \nI've been overweight, borderline overweight, at my ideal weight, and all the weights in between and I've seen how men have responded to me in all those instances.  \nBut, were their responses because of my body? Because of me? Or because of them?  \nMost of you think it's your body. You think your body is the determining factor in whether or not you're single, in a relationship, married, and overall, whether or not you're loved.  \nYou may think your relationship or marriage is lacking love and you blame your weight for it. You may think your partner isn't attracted to you anymore or if they say they are you think they're lying.  \nYou're thinking they can't love you if you're at the size you are and in the body you have.  \nYou're determining your lovability by your weight.  \nBut is that all there is? Your weight? That's all that matters when it comes to loving you?  \nWhat about the rest of you? Is that all secondary? Do you really believe that everyone in this world determines whether or not they love someone based on their body size","cbCain2U3hFLzChA","https://ap.wps.com/l/cbCain2U3hFLzChA","pdf",91764,"English","# Ep #132: Your Lovability and Your Body\n## Identity, weight, and lovability\n## Romantic love vs. societal body standards\n## Projection and attraction realities","[{\"question\":\"Why does the episode focus on romantic love when discussing lovability and the body?\",\"answer\":\"The episode says romantic love is the most common context in coaching groups where people connect their body with whether they are lovable.\"},{\"question\":\"How does the speaker challenge the belief that weight determines whether someone is loved?\",\"answer\":\"The episode argues that not everyone cares about body size and that people want different body types, so lovability can’t be reduced to weight alone.\"},{\"question\":\"What is projection in this context, and why does it matter?\",\"answer\":\"The episode explains that listeners project their assumptions about lovable partners onto other people, even though they have no real idea what others actually think.\"}]","Ep-132-Transcript | PDF",11]