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 \nAddressed to carers but relevant and deeplyimportant for us all,Be With encourages usto focus on fellowshipand accurate witness:to simply be with who,and what,is actuallybefore us.  \nA friendly,authoritative voicein the dark that will lead itsat-the-end-of-their-tether listenersthrough to the endgame?  \nLiterary Review of Canada  \n38001800543195HIGH LIFE HIGHLAND  \n‘M,het lodad in mv throat and mv eves  \nflinching work reflecting on an awful,inexor-able illness.Physician offices would do well bystocking copies.Mike Barnes shares knowledge(\"The truth is,there's no graceful way to takecontrol of someone's life away from them”)and he asks questions(\"How much room inyour own heart?\")any caregiver must consider.He also asserts his primary insight:“But beingwith in person trumps all else.It's the one wayof caring most likely to be right,and the leastlikely to be regretted.”’  \n—Toronto Star  \n'The particulars of Mary's dementia givethis brief book universal appeal.The authoreffectively humanizes himself as a man whohas made errors,who wishes he had done thingsdifferently,and who has his own psychologicalburdens to bear...A book that tells the readerthat you are not alone,whoever you are.'  \n Kirkus Reviews  \n'In their simplicity and even-handed tone,theletters achieve their author's difficult aim:theypresent as a literary Third Man,a friendly,authoritative voice in the dark that will lead itsat-the-end-of-their-tether listeners through tothe endgame...Barnes has been moved andamazed by his mother's courage and effort,how she has learned to be a new person.Whatreally matters,he concludes,is the hardestthing,being there with her.“For every thou-sand pages describing how living is shattered bythis dread disease,there should be at least onepage observing how living goes on within it.”Be With has 156 pages of them.'  \n# —Literary Review of Canada\n\nMike Barnes is an award-winning authorwhose stories have appeared twice in BestCanadian Stories,three times in The JourneyPrize Anthology,and have won the SilverMedal for Fiction at the National MagazineAwards.He lives in Toronto.  \nBe With  \n# Letters to a Carer\n\nMike Barnes  \n\n| HIGLIFE  \u003Cbr>HICHte  BRARIES   |  |\n| --- | --- |\n| 3801800543195   |  |\n| BERTRAMS   | 20/02/2019   |\n| 362133   | £89g   |\n| ANE   |  |\n\nFirst published in the UK 2019 byMyriad Editionswww.myriadeditions.com  \nMyriad Editions  \nAn imprint of New Internationalist PublicationsThe Old Music Hall,106-108 Cowley Rd,Oxford OX41JE  \nFirst printing13579108642  \nOriginally published in Canada by Biblioasis  \nCopyright O Mike Barnes 2018The moral right of the author has been asserted  \nEvery attempt has been made to obtain the necessarypermissions for use of copyright material.If there have beenany omissions,we apologise and will be pleased to makeappropriate acknowledgement in any future edition  \nAll rights reserved.No part of this publication maybe reproduced,stored in a retrieval system,or transmittedin any form or by any means without the written permissionof the publisher,nor be otherwise circulated in any form ofbinding or cover other than that in which it is publishedand without a similar condition being imposed on thesubsequent purchaser  \nA CIP catalogue record for this book isavailable from the British Library  \nISBN(pbk):978-1-912408-18-4  \nISBN(ebk):978-1-912408-19-1  \nDesign","cbCaig7yo19eZNKd","https://ap.wps.com/l/cbCaig7yo19eZNKd","pdf",4167418,164,"English","# Letters to a Carer\n## Mike Barnes and the caregiving perspective\n## Presence, witness, and resilient capacities\n## Publication and bibliographic information","[{\"question\":\"What is Be With - Letters to a Carer about?\",\"answer\":\"It is a compelling personal story addressed to carers, shaped by life alongside dementia. 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